What Goes On In Ms. Betty's World

I started a blog to reflect on what I've learned in my life and to reach out to others engaged in our curious about BDSM.

I talk about much more than kink, though. There are many sides to me and I tend to express them all. I write about whatever happens to be on my mind each day, from pet peeves to news stories to what's happening out there in the arts.

I started exploring the world of power exchange 14 years ago. While a Lady Dominant isn't all I am, I believe it influences the rest of what I am, just as the way the rest of what I am influences the type of Domme I am. So here I share all of me because I believe it is all relevant to what I do and how I do it.

I do talk in very frank terms at times about BDSM activities, dynamics, and other scene-related issues, but I talk about plenty of vanilla things, too.

Sit and stay awhile. I think you'll like it here.

Ms. Betty

Monday, May 4, 2009

Life, Art, and Wonko the Sane

Wonko the Sane is a character in the 4th book of the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series, So Long and Thanks for All the Fish. He is a marine biologist who is waiting for the end of the world. Wonko is his childhood nickname. He still goes by it because he says a scientist must be like a child, if he sees something he must say he sees it, whether it is what he expects to see or not.

I often tell myself an artist (I use the term loosely) must do the same, especially when something isn't turning out as planned, we must see what is there, not what we expected to be there. As I'm experimenting with a new medium, there is alot of things not quite turning out as planned lately. I got out to paint the trees across the street and what comes off the brush looks nothing like the subject tree...but it's still a tree.

Or rather it's an impression of a tree. It's not a perfect reproduction of the tree across the street, but it is the shape and color of a tree. Yet if I were only looking for what I was expecting to be there I might never realize it. It may not meet my exact expectations, but the spirit of the idea is still there.

Seems to me that may be a good lesson to apply to daily life, too. I had some very specific plans for June. They didn't quite work out, so I had a plan B. Well, plan B isn't quite working either, but with a few simple modifications plan B.2 is off and running. This plan isn't the original "picture" I planned on creating, but it's the same idea and the same spirit, same goals accomplished...it just doesn't look the way I originally expected.

And sometimes that's okay.

1 comments:

Betty's Goodboy said...

kind of like my trip to denver. we didn't do all the things you planned, but we accomplished the spirit of my trip :)