Uh-oh

I was on the bus yesterday headed out for an appointment. While we stopped at a traffic signal I looked out the window and saw a couple standing outside the door of what was their, or possibly his apartment.

She had a very unhappy and somewhat cross look on her face. The young man was frantically patting his pockets, a slightly panicked look on his face. He kept searching and she kept looking more and more unhappy.

I think someone was in trouble...

Spirituality and BDSM

This is a subject I touch on from time to time. I see very strong parallels between the two, and apparently I am not the only one. (See Raven Kaldera, among others.)

But it all my reading, I have never heard it put quite so perfectly as I did on the blog Street Prophets:

But Wicca says that this sacred, transformational act...is sacred, as long as there is love. It is sacred when a couple in love unite their bodies with intent to make a baby. And it is equally as sacred when there’s birth control involved, when the sex cannot result in reproduction...or when the first kiss is not to her lips but to her booted foot.

The blog goes on to say:

There is room within this breadth of field for all kinds of relationships...I know a lot of pagans into various depths and styles of BDSM, for example. It doesn’t break the boundaries of our faith because both the grasping and wielding of power and the willing submission to another are both elements of the indwelling Deity that must be understood at a deep level in order to grow in one’s faith. The process of accessing the power of the gods involves a deep and total surrender, and wielding the power for the greater good involves taking a role of confident dominance. A Wiccan prayer I know blesses the wave that breaks on the sand, and blesses the sand that yields to the wave.

I strongly recommend that anyone interested in the spiritual/sacred side of sex read the entire blog. It's all wonderful, but I just wanted to highlight the BDSM portions here.

While the blog focuses on Pagan/Wiccan sexuality, it is important to remember that the spiritual truths found in BDSM are there regardless of the faith of the scene participants. The Divine is there as much for a Pentecostal Christian, or a Catholic or Muslim as it is for a Druid.

The same can be true of sex. But,you have to choose for it to be. It all comes down to your intentions. Sex and/or BDSM becomes what you make it, as does the rest of life.

Now everyone be safe, and go have some fun.

Ms. Betty

The Penny Game

I love this game. It is by far my favorite of all my kinky games. And playing is very simple.

First, you build anticipation by giving the instructions: find two shiny pennies and keep them where you can see them for the next X number of days (until the day you are going to play.)

Of course, in an ideal world, the bottom does not know why he/she has these pennies. (Hint, if you want to play, but want to keep the suspense, forward this to the top of your choice and say "pretty please". No peeking! But if you don't mind the spoiler, go ahead and keep reading.)

When the day arrives you need blank wall space, the pennies, and any fun/evil toys and props you can think of.

The bottom stands back a bit with his (or her) legs spread for balance and bends slightly at the waist towards the wall. The Top holds the first penny against the wall. The bottom presses his (or her) index finger against the penny, holding it in place against the wall. The same is done with the other penny.

The Top leans in and in a whisper, or near whisper, gives a single instruction: "don't drop the pennies." Ideally this should be repeated once or twice more as the Top backs away and the game starts. The bottom's whole world becomes those two pennies and keeping them in place.

Then the Top uses all of those wonderful toys and props to do everything her (his) imagination can come up with to make the bottom drop the pennies.

Should the bottom actually drop one or both pennies an appropriate penalty is given and the game starts again. Continue until you are both exhausted, or other things start to seem like a better idea.

Play safe and have fun.

Ms. Betty

Sounds Like My Kind of Lady

Former Colorado state Senate Minority Leader Mike Feeley said the about former Colorado state Senator Joan Johnson after her death on May 23, 2008:

"It wasn't that she didn't suffer fools gladly; it was that she didn't suffer fools at all."

Johnson was a very popular and successful legislator. One of her biggest successes was carrying the law that allows people to receive one free copy of their credit report.

Madam Johnson, I believe you will be deeply missed.

Ms. Betty

Naughty Boy!!!

I just saw the most interesting commercial...

A couple is in the showroom talking to a car salesman. The salesman invites the man to view the same model of car in a different color on the dealership's website.

"Actually," says the dark haired woman in a stern voice. "He's not allowed to use the internet anymore." She turns to her husband. "Tell him why."

And this is where it gets disappointing as they turn it into a joke of questionable taste.

But my, can you imagine the kinky possibilities. Just what might a bad boy do to get grounded from the internet? And how else might he be punished?

Ms. Betty