Monday, October 4, 2010

The Nature of Change

PC's birthday is later this month, so I suppose it's no surprise that we found ourselves in a reflective mood earlier today.

This month's chastity game revolves around an experiment to see if we can make him eroticize spanking. It's not serious conditioning, just a lark, but it's still fun to see the results.

For the next two weeks he can only masturbate to F/M themed spanking material. Then he will be in chastity for a week. At the end of that week we will hold his birthday session. During this session he will have to ask me for a bare bottom spanking... in front of company.

As is his way, he finds the idea both deeply arousing and slightly horrifying. Among his other worries, he's not sure how well his bottom will hold up to a spanking since it's been so long since he's had an intense bottom warming.

It's been almost a year since he faced a serious disciplinary spanking. It's hard to believe that this is the same man who, when we first started 5 years ago, could barely go a week or two without needing a serious attitude adjustment.

The swearing, the temper tantrums, the poor manners, they've all faded away over time to leave an actual adult in their place.

Those of us who practice disciplinary spanking know it works. We know how it works and we know why it works, but mostly the knowledge is theoretical; seeing the results first hand is a bit different. It's deeply satisfying to watch the attitude change and the man in your care grow and mature.

Suddenly one day he is standing there, strong and confident, yet humble; assertive and independent, yet obedient; all of the best things he ever was mixed with all the hard lessons learned over your knee.

This is when you realize it's worth it. This is when you know that all the fight and struggle, the stress, the sleepless nights, have all paid off. He's the man you always knew he could be.

You have to be proud of that.

Ms. Betty

3 comments:

Mitch said...

Well done, Ms. Betty! Your dedication, knowledge, and focus have paid off. :)

Hermione said...

Asking for a spanking in front of other people? Will this be a small group? Not vanillins, I hope!

Hugs,
Hermione

Lady Koregan said...

Thank you, Mitch.

Not to worry, Hermione, "company" in this case is one very kink curious friend of mine.

PC and I have done this before. He rather likes being my model for private demos. :)